Hi!

I want to try and do some work with some Y4/5 girls on friendship, as their has recently been lots of falling out which is taking up lots of time to resolve .
It seems to centre on 2 girls who are 'best friends', but the first is very dependant on the other. The 2nd girl has ,and wants to keep, other friends ( understandably), but her friend finds this difficult to cope with. I want to do something with them both to try and emphasise that it's OK to have other friends so that the 2nd girl becomes able to cope!!
Any suggestions welcome!!

madmum

Can you pair her up with other people in class.Perhaps you could focus on the qualities in the class to try and help her look at the qualities other people may have.Little books about each child with the others writing something positive about that person or a flower where the petals each have something written on them and you could make a display.

I am currently running a group for six y4 girls who constantly fall out, it helps the kids think about feelings from both sides, teaches ways of dealing with friendships and strategies for dealing with confict. My girls love it (been doing it for about 4 weeks) and there has been an improvement in the way they interact and deal with their issues.

Not sure what the book is called that I got my ideas from, but will find it out and post the book title.

Dot
xxx

Sounds like that would be really useful. Thanks!

Madmum

With a 15yo daughter I find friendships among girls to be both volatile and uncomprehensible. A lot of the problems do seem to be centred on her best friend though. Except for daughter they all go to the same school. Daughter is very popular because no matter who is not talking to who she maintains her friendships and wont get involved with the arguments. So if she doesn't see one of them for a while she is genuinely pleased when she does.

I just find the arguments pathetic most of the time, and have given up listening to my daughters best friend when she falls out with others. And secretly delighted when she is on the outside and getting a taste of her own medicine. At the moment she is realy struggling because one of her friends has caught on to what she is like and has told her she doesn't dislike her but no longer wants to be her friend.

After trashing her ex friend for 20 minutes I told her if that is how she spoke about her friends, or those she wanted to be friends with I wasn't surprised.

Thinking about it I probably wouldn't be very good teaching this stuff

you think that may be why they roll their eyes and ignore you when you say anything G!!!

Dunno, all females do that to me, thought it was just genetically encoded into girls and women.

pardon?

Somewhat like selective hearing Dq?

huh?

Some really useful ideas on here that you can adapt yourself. look at the Y4 and Y5 stuff.

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If you have access to the SEAL material there is also a booklet in each section for small group work rather than whole class stuff.