We have recently taken a new child into our current Y2. He is EAL - Mum says first language is English although she speaks to him in home language.The child only uses 1 or 2 words at the most - today he used my name for the first time.
He attended a school for 4 days and was told he was too active, he as attended a private school in home country where his behaviour was tackled in an abusive nature.
He displays many autistic tendencies needing to be at the front of the line, physically attacking children using what he classes as his chair, pencil, teacher. Cannot maintain eye contact when reminding him of his behaviour, etc. Is unable to sit still or concentrate for more than a few minutes. Is unable to cope with unstructured periods. Is developing attatchments and is extremely jealous.
I am at a complete loss as to how to manage his behaviour and have tried every trick in the book, I am currently covering PPA and I have modelled teachers strategy with him having the expectation that he will carry out an instruction given ie 'Good sitting', it works for a few times but then he grows tired of it. When he sees the whiteboard on he is mesmorised and will bang the computer occasionally turning off the computer with it. I have bribed him with stickers which he really loves but take 1 eye off him and he will steal the lot. When he is agressive try to move him and he will attack you as I found out a few weeks ago.
He is affectionate though and always wants to hug you and kiss you, but careful with anyone who comes between you and im because he will wallop them. Yesterday because my attention was directed elsewhere he honked on my boob to get my attention. I was shocked I did remind him that it was not nice to touch me in that way and that I didn't like it.
The dinner ladies don't know what to do with him, the teachers struggle with him and I'm really trying! Help!

what country is he from...what has he seen as regards behaviour towards women and others...is he suffering from any post traumatic stress from seeing war or anything in his home country or by treatment from others in that country

first language cant be English if his mother tongue is used at home

may be that he cant understand the system of teaching here, he may have been taught by rote in his country and punished if not sat still and doing as he was told

is there a department within your LEA that will support with refugees and their learning? or a community within your area who can offer support?

Nigeria - we agree that English can't be his first language. He is scared of Mum but displays many of the behaviours around her. We have questioned how she deals with his behaviour and hers is to make him crouch with hands up. In the school in Nigeria he was beaten several times. His sibling is really quiet, quite the opposite really, Mum seems to be well educated.

We are hoping that we can rush him through the system but as you know it takes its time.

sounds like he is reacting to the treatment he has had previously, especially if he is autistic and his 'normal' behaviour was seen as naughty

i dont know about the education system in Nigeria but im pretty sure they may not be hot on human rights