Thought this would be a useful topic for all of us .
How do you cope with unacceptable / acceptable behaviour ?
how we praise ( or not ) ?

Can we learn from each other ?

By telling them its unacceptable. Praising when you get the desired result and praising in front of others. Saying thats not the way we do things at this school ...affective for new people.

Do that every day Jack and a perticular child doesnt really respond to it

She is sooo rude and i dont know what to do next... she answers back and everything!!

Is she doing it to get attention? If so maybe she needs support if her home life is crap. You could try ignoring her until she responds appropriately as long as she isn't hurting anyone. This sometimes works.

My school uses well done slips which seem to work well ,
but at lunch times i have introduced a ' raffle ticket ' merit system , playing 'nicely' looking after the little ones etc . found raffle books on a sticker web site ( dont know if i can tell ) then at the end of term we will have a draw . dinner ladies have donated prizes . pencil case, pack of brand pencils , key rings that type of thing,
PS i will also buy some of those little packs of sweets ( those wth bottles and teddies in ) because I feel all the children who earned a ticket should get something ....

Are we all so confident we dont need advice or just wont part with a really good tip or idea ??

We had our end of term raffle on Friday .. IT WAS FANTASTIC !!!
3 childrens names were pulled out of the hat ( those who had been given a ticket ) and chose a gift from ' the bag ' ( gifts from Asda about 10 at less than a £1 each )
the children loved the whole concept ... and have all ( 70 of them ) promised to be really good next term .... ha ha ... we'll see !

sounds like the strategy worked then Pinkcat

i will post some of the ideas i use later, just have been busy at work and havent had the chance to post as much as i wanted over the last couple of weeks

also a lot of TAs are guided by the teacher and are not in charge of the management of behaviour within the classroom

Stickers and stamps on work. A student couldn't get a child to work last week. She sat trying to persuade him I said just leave him then.I whispered to her 'Now watch this.' I encouraged the others to work and when the first one finished I got out my stamp and said 'I have some of Nemo's friends you can stamp your work when it's finished.' He watched two children get a stamp and then set to work and was finished in no time.
Another pupil in the same class has a hand if he gets a sticker on each finger he can have some chosing time. It starts anew everyday.

Have you tried taliking to her? I am working with a child at the moment with behaviour difficulties connected with his speech and language difficulties. School have had problems with swearing, spitting, hitting, throwing - all the usual stuff

I did visuals of bad actions (throwing, swearing etc) and good actions (playing, being friendly etc) using Widgit, we talked about all the different things and then stuck them on pages in his "special" book depending on whether they were good or bad. We spent alot of time talking about why things were good or bad and he is beginning to understand. The swearing is still a problem but it is everyday at home and unfortunately he does tend to use it in context rather than randomly and just doesn't seem aware of the shock it is causing. I told him that even though those words were used at home they couldn't be used at school.

I think getting the children to talk about behaviour and examine what is good and bad can be very helpful. If the girl you are having problems with is trying to gain attention this will be a productive way of giving it to her and maybe getting some idea of the whys??

Hope that helps abit. I am starting a nurtureish group with the child I am working with and 1 other to try and introduce awareness of others feelings, sharing, listening etc. Will let you know how it goes.

Try making a small visual target card and tape it to where she sits,
you could make it together on computer and you could encourage
her to set her own targets, no shouting out, no wandering around
classroom, things that she feels are achievable.
Then make a daily lesson chart, each lesson she achieves a target
let her put a sticker on or if she has abad day a sad face, that way
its visable and she can see how she is doing. Reward with early
dinner pass,goldentime extra 5 mins on playground with a friend of her
choice.

Always try and catch her being good, tell her how much you like her,
but sometimes when she behaves like that you dont like the behaviour.
Raise self esteem, stay positive and keep chipping away!

Hi,
I work with teenagers so my strategies maybe a little different- if I have persistant difficulties I ask for permission to remove the student from the lesson. I like to build a relationship with students I'm likely to be working with a lot- so might ask them to help me with something else- printing off pictures, helping with display boards- usually something totally unrelated to the lesson- students tend to open up once they've calmed down and you have their confidence. I usually end my session with a 'well deserved' cup of tea, in which I start to address the difficulties with particular subjects, classes, relationships etc. We discuss empathy and alternative ways to deal with stressful situations. We discuss a choice of appropriate rewards for improvement. Many students opt for a phonecall home- lots of parents have only had contact with the school regarding negative behaviour so when I phone most parents say 'what's he/she done now'!! Recieving praise at home often helps students to continue to do well.

Ellie x

i work with girl (not too often) she is rude, shouts and argues, i ignore her when she shouts - she knows that i will ignore her as i have told her - i respond when she puts up hand and is polite. and i have explained to her that when she is rude it upsets me, she wrote me a sorry note, and keeping fingers crossed has not been rude since. i think that she didn't really think that adults in authority had feelings!

Whats the procedure in your school for this snot behaviour?

Do you get to keep her in at playtimes to talk to her?

One of my strategies is to quietly say to the child I'll see you at break, dinner or end of school. It does work but it takes some time for them to cotton on, it comes eventually and you start to notice a change intheir behaviour, as no child likes to waste their own time.

The year 6 pupil I work 1:1 with responds well to being ignored but this can not always be possible because of other pupils around him.
As a reward we have made a Jigsaw for him (this time a fav football player) after every lesson if he shows good behaviour he gets a piece and when completed he can take it home. This seems to be working better for him than the usual stickers!

I like thata idea kitegirl thanks