Building a positive relationship by

•Showing an interest in the student’s interests.
•Greeting them by name each day.
•Noticing when they seem upset or worried.
•Giving encouragement for effort.
•Finding something positive to say about them each day.
•Expecting that their behaviour will improve.
•Trusting them with responsibilities.
•Using humour to engage their cooperation.

Every child needs to be valued. You need work to develop positive relationships with those children who find it hard to behave or settle to learning.

Raising Self-esteem

Using the appropriate language when asking pupils to do something needs careful consideration.

Negative

•“Don’t do that”.
•“Stop messing about”.
•“You haven’t listened”.
•“You can’t go out until you’ve finished your work”.
•“Stop running in the corridor”.
•“You’re not looking at the book”.

Positive

•“Come and do this”.
•“Get on with your work”.
•“Listen to me”.
•“You can go out as soon as your work is finished”.
•“Walk in the corridor”.
•“Look at the book”.

As you will see, negative messages don’t really seem to move things on but just serve to make children feel worse. On the other hand you can give a better message, which is more upbeat, and which gives a clear direction, It also clarifies what behaviour is wanted rather than what is not wanted.

When a pupil is spoken to negatively on a regular basis the pupil’s self-esteem will plummet, by commenting positively to a pupil this will begin to raise self-esteem.

Could this be made a sticky too and I have put one in the NVQ forum?

babyboo you are inspired at the moment

I have cut and pasted this into my brilliant post from babyboo thread